“Our bodies are apt to be our autobiographies.” – Frank Gillette Burgess

(Photo:  http://tinyurl.com/b99ke6m

Body language is the language of gestures and postures. Studies of body language
analyze the emotions transmitted through movement, such as facial expressions and
the movement of your eyes, hands, legs, feet, and the body.

These studies show us how the body language of a person can reveal to us his or her state of mind and
intentions, and personality traits such as self-confidence, shyness, aggressiveness, greed, rivalry. Those who are adapted at reading body language can use this skill to get past defensive barriers, form better relationships and use it in terms of negotiation for example in business or sales. The topic, and study, of body language is vast, more than i could ever cover in a series of blog posts but i will outline some core concepts used throughout the world . I’ve decided to outline it through a number of key area’s as outlined in the image below. Bear in mind that it is not an exact science and that one gesture or eye movement can not be merely taken on its own , you have to analyse a number of different stimuli such as posture, vocal projection, hand placement, etc


So this series will be concerning;

Posture– Good posture, confident looking postures, etc

Head motion–  Head movements, etc

Facial expression – The subconscious micro expressions, the different types of expression

Eye contact– The eyes are a window to the soul, how to tell if someone’s lying, etc

Gestures– Where I will go through the difference between weak and powerful body language.
So for this post, I will be looking specifically at Posture, in terms of what its expressing to the people in your life. For the strongest, most confident posture, try to imagine that there is a string running through you to the top of your head and its being pulled upright. As this is such a visual thing it’s hard to describe in words but there is a technique called the Alexander Technique and it is described very well in the following videos;

As seen in the videos, the posture you should be avoiding is when the body is hunched over, your head down and your shoulders tense. This body language is considered weak or submissive, and that of a person who is not very confident. Your shoulders should be rolled back, but not so far that it looks like your puffing your chest out like a meat-head. Your legs should be shoulder width apart so you can, to quote a favourite website of mine, ” show women that you have a package down there you need to work around and make room for.”

Posture  is not only a means of punctuating conversation, it is also the way in which people relate to each other when they are together. Three types of postures are distinguished:

1. inclusive or non inclusive

2. face-to-face or parallel

3. congruent or incongruent.


1. Inclusive or non inclusive: 

Inclusivity or non-inclusivity refers to the way in which the members of a group include people or fail to include them. They do it by positioning their bodies, arms, or legs in a certain way. The arms and legs of the members of the group are unconsciously used to protect the group from intrusion.


2. Face-to-face or parallel:

The second category assumes that two persons can relate with each other in terms of posture, face-to-face, sitting beside each, other or maybe facing toward a third person. The face-to-face position is usual in a teacher-student relationship or a doctor-patient relationship where emotions or information are being transmitted. Parallel positions occur, for example, among two or more students listening to a teacher. Parallel arrangements, when freely adopted, indicate that those persons are probably in a neutral situation, at least at that moment. The way a couple position themselves in a social gathering also says a great deal about their relationship.

3. Congruent or incongruent:

This category refers to the ability of the members of a group to imitate each other.When a group is in congruence, the positions of their bodies mimic each other, in some cases like mirror images. Interestingly, when one member of a congruent group changes his position, everyone does so with him. The congruence of position of a group usually indicates that all the members are in agreement. If the group has two points of view, the defenders of each opinion will adopt different positions; each subgroup will be congruent within itself, but not congruent with the other subgroup. The leader in any social or family gathering often selects the position for the group and they all invariably follow him or her.

Another important aspect of posture and body language is not taking up space when you’re standing or sitting. This goes back to the hunched over posture that displays weakness

.Avoid caving in on yourself, it says that you’re not worthy of attention and entitlement of some territory. you should be taking up space when your sitting down spread your legs comfortably past shoulder width. you can also lean back or the side to look more relaxed.

As such people subconsciously associate confidence (or lack of confidence) with  body language. For example, the positioning of your head and legs in these powerful stances goes back to confidence due to years of evolution. When you hide your vital areas, you seem weak. However if you display dominant strong body language and posture, you seem more confident; examples include exposing your neck when you keep your head and chin up and the spread of your legs opens up your other vital organs (wink wink nudge nudge).

weak submissive posture and body language example:


Notice how he is hunched over with his shoulders and how he is caved in on himself. This is poor posture and body language, you want to appear open, friendly and confident.

Now compare it to these Strong, dominant postures and body language examples:





Notice how open their body language is? They’re relaxed, open, taking up space,and have good posture.

Anyway that’s all from me on posture.Feel free to sound off in the comments below, share tips and techniques, or just idea’s in what you want me to cover.


4 Responses to ““Our bodies are apt to be our autobiographies.” – Frank Gillette Burgess”
  1. i enjoyed this post, and learned a few things. kind of need to work on my posture.

  2. EVO says:

    You’ve posted pics of some of my all-time film and television heroes.

    Great article! Kind of makes me want to go back and find an old post of how I taught myself to be confident and “alpha” in my posture and body language. I used to be a terrible sloucher, so I am well familiar with how rapidly things can change if you sort yourself out in this respect.

    Thanks for sharing, Dave!

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